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A Teenage Girl rescued by the SexWorkers in Kolkata

Child Health
The volunteers of the organization reached the
residence of the said Sex Worker and rescued the girl -
Photo by juan pablo rodriguez on Unsplash



A report published on 29th December 2017 on a local Bengali Daily Ei Samay which have made us dumbstruck. The report stated that a girl of about 16 years left home whenparent scolded her for doing badly in the Test Examination for
appearing 10th Standard Board Examination. With grief, sorrow and anger she fled home on last Tuesday 26th December 2017 afternoon. She boarded a bus from Dankuni to Shyambazar. After arriving there, she started walking aimlessly and finally reached the nearby red-light area at Shovabazar. Where she met a woman who is a sex-worker and eventually took shelter at her residence for the night.

Light at the End of the Tunnel

Child Psychology
Photo by Jeremy Bishop on Unsplash


An autonomous body of the Sex Workers is working in that area for
rescue of trafficked girls and women . Same kind of organizations are functional
at several red light areas in the state. The report had stated that in
couple of years they had rescued 862 teenage girls and 222 women from
being trapped in forced prostitution.


On the basis of the report from their source, the volunteers of the organization reached the

residence of the said Sex Worker and rescued the girl.




Twist of the Story




The girl initially was very reluctant to provide her home address and
phone nos to contact her parent . She was annoyed to return home as
she may again be punished by her parent. After several failed attempts,
the rescuers ultimately called the Police for help.
 
Finally by the joint effort of the Police and rescuers
the parent could finally bring their child back to home.


Too much Pressure



The above real life story may be symbolic to the pattern of our
prevailing societal condition. A parent lay pressure by having on the
kids to succeed , the behavioral pattern of a child may affect very
fast and sometimes the symptoms are irrecoverable. They are
paralyzed of fear of not doing well and by obvious fall out they
won't actually learn and succeed like others , to whom they are every
time compared so often. As a result the affected kids , teenagers take
irrational steps like fleeing home, attempting for suicide, murdering
and other anti social activities which stun the Social Scientists,
Psychologists and all of us.


Need of the Hour
Guide your Child

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As a parent we often do not see or recognize any disability is
persistent in our children. The symptoms of ADD , ADHD, Dyslexia,
Dyscalculia, Dysgraphia are grossly overlooked and ignored by most of
the parents all over the world. Most cases parents are not aware of
the mental health issues or even knowing the issues, they are
reluctant to acknowledge for a fear of loss in position in the society.

Recently I had raised the issue while working with dyslexia , a senior
teacher Smt Mahuya Ray gave us a beautiful advice that we need to learn
and renovate easy to accept social terminology to address the issues related
to mental health.

 

Final Thought


Children with learning problems need guidance and understanding from
parents, families, teachers to reach their full potential and to
succeed. For school going children frustration, blame, anger may have
built up within a family before child is diagnosed. Parents and
children may need special help to overcome negative atmosphere. Mental
health professional can educate parents , teachers and children about
the symptoms and how it affects a family as well as society. They
will also be able to help the children and their parents, develop new
skills, attitudes and ways of reflecting each other. An all around
awareness program is highly needed in all corner of the world.

Recognizing and Living with Dyslexia

Dyslexia
How and What acts as a serious hurdle in knowing , creating awareness about Dyslexia is the nature of the ailment itself  -  Photo Credit StockSnap



The two case studies may be or may not be related to Dyslexia but that make me and others significantly concern about the state of child health and dealing with it.



In past two months I picked two incidents of two students. First a Class XI student of a well known school in Gurugram near New Delhi, had allegedly murdered a 4 years old student of the same school in the school premises (at the Wash Room) with a hope that the scheduled Examination and proposed parent-teacher meeting be postponed. As he was not prepared for the examination and not doing well in study. He is now in judicial custody.




Second incidence was of Class IX student of a Kolkata School . The student allegedly doctored his Math paper with higher marks on which he did poorly. He was caught by the teacher and his parent was called by the authority . The father told the school to send the boy home as he was then out of station. The boy left the school but did not turn up home. He is yet to be traced for more than one and half month.

I refer the above two real life stories for a perspective of different psychological and physiological symptoms we primarily unable to or do not recognize a problem and surprise when it comes on the floor.        

Dyslexia can be mistaken for laziness or inefficiency

How and What acts as a serious hurdle in knowing , creating awareness about Dyslexia is the nature of the ailment itself. The disorder involves reading , learning , interpreting of anything and is not marked by a serious change in physical activity. Parents often fail to understand the reason behind the poor performance of the children in studies and call them inefficient or lazy.
More than just a simple reversal of letters or numbers , Dyslexia is a brain dysfunction that causes a child to wrestle with spelling , writing , reading and even speaking. With this condition  learners strain to process or identify some types of information , from identifying letter sounds or the actual symbols to understanding blends and comprehending what they are reading.
Till now Dyslexia can't be completely cured but can be accommodate by individual care and plan case to case basis.

Although there are no official statistics of dyslexia children world wide, experts estimate it to be around 8 to 20 per cent based on studies done in developed countries.

A mass awareness program is needed to the people understand about the disorder . There should be specialists in the school to examine the children as many among them may be suffering from the disorder., but have to bear the wrath of their guardians for being non-performers.


difficulties related to Dyslexia
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Signs of Dyslexia

  • Letter Reversal
  • Paring letters with sounds or matching sound to letters
  • Switching beginning sounds when pronouncing words or phrases, like using 'mawn lower' in place of Lawn Mower in conversation.
  • Trouble reading aloud or grouping phrases or words.
  • Inability or difficulty with sounding out new words.
  • Difficulties with handwriting or getting letters in the wrong order when writing
  • Trouble with rhymes and rhyming words.
  • Trouble in addition of simple numbers say 2+3 = ?
  • Exhibits difficulty recalling known words or texts 
  • Substitutes one small sight word for another such as a l, he ,the ,there ,was 

Strategies


  • Provide calm and quite place for activities
  • Use books on tape
  • Use books with large scripts and big spaces between lines
  • Provide copy of lecture notes
  • Don't count spelling on spelling on History , science or other similar texts
  • Allow alternative forms for books , reports
  • Allow use of computer for in-class essays
  • Use multi-sensory teaching methods
  • Teach students to use logic rather than rote memory
  • Present material in small units      
 Excerpted from LDA of California amd UC Davis M I N D Institute Q U I L T S Calendar 

 

No Cure , yet , but scientists may have found the cause of dyslexia 

A report was published in Statesman dated Oct 18 2017 stating that Researchers from universities 
conducted an experiment published in the Proceedings of the Royal Society B , to determine how the cells in the eyes may affect the brain.
They conducted a study with sixty people. They examined eyes of 30 with learning disability  and 30 without it.
They found differences in the shape of spots located in the red , blue and green cones of the eye , which are responsible for color.
For the normal , the blue-cone had a different shape in each eye - one that was round and another that was more oblong . Analysts argue the asymmetry allows the signals in one eye to override the signals in the other . Producing a single image in the brain created by the dominant eye.

As for the dyslexic , the blue cones were symmetrical. Scientists believe the identical arrangement produces 'mirror' images in both eyes that may confuse the brain . Hence , there is no dominant eye.   

The lack of asymmetry might be the biological and anatomical basis of reading and spelling disabilities. For dyslexic students there two eyes are equivalent and their brain has to successively rely on the two slightly different versions of a given visual scene.
The researchers said in a statement.
Our observations lead us to believe that we indeed found a potential cause of dyslexia

However , scientists say it's treatable, because there is a preventable, minuscule delay that occurs before the mirror images are sent to the brain.

The discovery of delay between the primary image and the mirror image in the opposing hemispheres of the brain , allowed us to develop a method to erase the mirror image that is so confusing for dyslexic people.
the authors said.

By using a "mirror lamp" they're able to flash into the eye so quickly that it cancels one of the identical images before it reaches the brain.

However more research is needed to ensure the technique works.

Some Extraordinary People dealt Dyslexia differently


Won over Dyslexia
John Hoke


John Hoke Nike’s chief design officer, finds that he often gets off to a running start – idea-wise – when he doodles and listens to others at the same time. He has dyslexia, which makes him doodle as a form of communication. He explains how he runs a tight ship at the iconic company in a interview in the Statesman 11 December 2017.


As a kid in the 1970s, he was a runner and a good athlete. He was wearing the Nike waffle trainer shoe. When he was done with it, he would cut it in half and look at the two sections and obsess about how it was made. One summer, he was floating in the pool on a raft and thinking, if it is take a raft, shrink it and put it on foot, would that help cushion the rear-to-forefoot transition blow of running? He began to doodle and draw that. He sent – at the time, the president was Phil Knight – a letter. Phil sent him a letter back, “Hey, when you get old enough, could you come work for me?”

On his work and design front he stated boldly



Sneakers, body sketches, architectural retail spaces. I’m dyslexic, so my first real language was drawing. I doodled everything. I find that I listen better when my hand is busy. And I find that when I am listening intently and gestural moving my pen, some interesting things come out. I came to this idea that my dyslexia is not actually a burden —it is a gift because it makes me look at the world differently.


Dyslexia Survivor
Dr Richard Kwok (seated) with his daughter  ST PHOTO: AZMI ATHNI


Dr Richard Kwok is successful engineer with a doctorate . happy marriage and two children.
Dr Kwok was regarded as stupid in school, but discovered he was dyslexic later in life. He is now Chief Technology Officer at Singapore Technologies Kinetics.

Yet , as youngster , copying notes from teacher's blackboard was very difficult Je had to copy word by word instead of sentence by sentence.
But Dr Kwok realized it when his son was diagnosed with dyslexia , he had the same problems and found out that he had dyslexia.
His son Kwok Ting Yu did not have to struggle alone like his dad.After the diagnosis the young Kwok received intervention training at the Dyslexia Association of Singapore , which helped him pick up reading skills.

Final Thought



Early diagnosis and intervention of Dyslexia is crucial and important for young children who might face ridicule environment in their surrounding. It’s hard when someone we care about is suffering. We don’t suffer alone in this world. By choosing these gentle words,we open the door to real help in what can feel like an impossible situation. We all take our turns hurting. With this mindful tool, we can teach each other true compassion as well.

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